Recently, end-of-life care that is actively used in the field of intractable diseases and the terminal stage of cancer. In the clinical setting where patients are suffering from the difficult illness of cancer, having doubts about life itself, suffering from the meaning of life, fear of death, anxiety after death, etc., doctors, caregivers and patients Palliative medicine has come to be brought in with the participation of close relatives.
Mother Teresa said, “The dying person is in danger of being isolated from the world of the living, feeling the anxiety and fear of being separated. To alleviate that anxiety, the role of accepting the death. “We need someone to do it,” he said, creating a “house for people waiting for death” and demonstrating that any human being can play a role in receiving the death.
“Anyone who dies by saying goodbye to someone can get the recognition that he existed in this world and get the hope of rebirth to take over something to someone,” he said.
In this way, Mother Teresa practiced cuddling “for those waiting for death” so that the anxieties and fears of the dying people could be removed and the death could be accepted calmly and with peace of mind.
In the case of a disaster, accident, suicide, etc., the death suddenly comes one day without warning.
Unlike dying after a long illness, he died shortly after looking back on his life, verifying his dreams and hopes, and worrying about his future life with his family. For that reason, I think there are many feelings that the deceased party and the bereaved family who were left behind wanted to convey. However, there is no one to convey his feelings anymore, and only sadness with a mixture of regret and anger that cannot be taken anywhere remains.
I have almost the same situation as the “place” of end-of-life care where my cousin got cancer and died while being taken care of by everyone, and the situation where a large number of people suddenly died unexpectedly in the Great East Japan Earthquake. I experienced it at the time.
My cousin (Hirohisa Takekawa) was four years older and 69 years old, and was a hobby teacher of calligraphy and aikido. He has been playing with him since he was a kid and loved him like his brother. In 2009, when he suffered from cancer and was sentenced to three months to live and was fighting against illness, the ephemeral nature of his life never left his mind.
It takes about 80 to 100 years from birth to death, and people will receive it differently depending on whether they see it as short or long. However, when comparing the time a person is alive with the time since he died, it is far longer after he died, and there is time that lasts forever. If so, I thought that it was important to maintain the “bond” even after death, not just the “bond” during life.
The concept of “The Phone of the Wind” was in place at this point. And, in order to cherish this consciousness, he created the poem “The Phone of the Wind”.
“The Phone of The Wind”
by Itaru Sasaki
Everyone has a past
There is a present and there is a future
In addition, there are encounters and farewells from time to time
The Phone of the Wind talks to those people
Who do you talk to
Is it a word or a letter
Or is it a facial expression?
The Phone of the Wind speaks with heart
Close your eyes quietly
Please listen
The sound of the wind or the sound of the waves
Or if you hear the chirping of a little bird
Please convey your feelings
Your feelings will surely reach that person
On the other hand, no one died in the disaster. Those who were drunk by the tsunami without any means of sudden events, those who desperately tried to escape but could not avoid it, the circumstances vary, but the victims must have wanted to live even more. It must have been an effort to live somehow. However, when he learned that it wouldn’t come true, he must have prayed for the safety of his family and regretted that he had a lot of things to tell. “I want to live, but I can’t live, I want to convey, but I can’t convey.” When I guessed this feeling, I strongly felt that it was necessary to connect that unfortunate feeling.
Also, even if the family was left behind, if they knew that they couldn’t meet anymore, they should have talked more and more, understood each other better, and created a lot of memories. However, the deceased will not come back by any effort or by any means. I can’t talk or play. Remorse and regret swirl, and thoughts are confused, and various requests from real life lose their sense of reality and tend to lose sight of themselves.