Author: ベルガーディア鯨山（英語版）

The cherry blossoms bloomed about a week earlier than usual this year.

The cherry blossoms are over, and the season of fresh green with a fragrant wind has come. It’s my favorite season.

This year, 10 years after the great earthquake, I have been busy with interviews since around January. However, as soon as 3.11 passed, I felt that the noise became so quiet that I wondered where it went and what it was. The world is changing in the same way as the seasons, and it is natural that the subject of interest changes from time to time, and I think that even victims of the earthquake cannot stay in sadness. I am. You have to find a little joy in your life and enjoy it.

Due to the influence of Corona, I am forced to refrain from living, but even so, depending on how I have my consciousness, it can be fun and boring. Why don’t you spend this Golden Week leisurely and relaxed in the big natural rhythm?

 

The five senses of human beings, such as seeing, hearing, touching, eating, and smelling, are recognized using the cognitive organs on the body. But where do you recognize the smells and tastes you smelled at some point, or the voices and appearances of people who have died and aren’t there?

This is not an act performed by the cognitive organs of the body, but an act of feeling with the mind. Therefore, it is an “object of the heart” that cannot be tasted or smelled on the spot.

Therefore, the mind can also be considered as a cognitive organ. In addition to the five senses, this sense of “feeling” is of utmost importance for a person to obtain a sense of healing.

It is important to pay attention to this “feeling” in the background that “The Phone of the Wind” can receive special healing unlike other cognitive organs. “I can’t see anything but feel like the other person is on the other side of the phone, I can’t hear anything but I feel like it’s being transmitted to the other side of the phone.” It means that the heart receives it with human sensibility and imagination, and it is a message of the heart that cannot be replaced by anything.

Then, what kind of shape is the “mind” that we often say in the human body?

We often say, “I was hurt by a rumor without so-called”, “I was betrayed by someone I trusted and my heart was hurt,” or “I lost a loved one and my heart was hurt.” However, the “heart” cannot be seen from the outside, and I do not know where it is. However, I am aware that I have a heart, and I believe that every person has a heart.

A “heart” that exists somewhere inside your body but you don’t really understand

It’s extremely difficult because an outsider called a psychotherapist treats this “heart” that was hurt by the grief.

The reason is that in order for the treatment professionals to understand the parties in different positions, ask about the relationship between the parties and the people around them, their values, living conditions, world view, etc., and build a relationship of mutual trust and trust. However, it is not something that can be done easily. This is because I don’t think the parties will reveal their true feelings at the point. If you can do that, you won’t be bothered or suffering enough to get depressed.

Shortly after I started “The Phone of the Wind” activity, I once heard a letter from a monk asking me if he would allow me to set up “The Phone of the Wind” in the temple grounds. When I asked him why, he said that people would come to talk to him about his life’s worries and sufferings, but for some reason he wouldn’t open his heart when he came to the point. He said that he wanted to be able to speak all of the above. Isn’t that the point, or maybe you’re going to be The Phone of the Wind yourself? “

It can be said that it is not easy to exhale the inner part of a person’s heart in this way.

According to psychologist Hayao Kawai, “It is not the doctor who heals the trauma, but the doctor can only watch and help the person heal himself.”

In other words, it is the “heart” of the person concerned, not the counselor or doctor, who heals the “trauma”, and what the counselor can do is to create an environment where the person concerned can feel at ease and feel sad and suffering. At the same time, the parties can change their minds and keep watching the rebirth.

Therefore, in order to regenerate the trauma, it is necessary for the parties to feel at ease and to exhale their feelings. I remember the words of a friend who lost his companion in the earthquake, saying, “If you exhale, you have to inhale as much as you breathe, and the repetition of inhaling and exhaling lives.”

“The Phone of the Wind” is isolated from the surroundings, kept secret, has the freedom to say what you want to say, has the function of letting out emotions without being disturbed by anyone, and you can hurt yourself. Everyone is waiting quietly at all times so that they can heal.

Before experiencing the Great East Japan Earthquake, many of you, including myself, must have taken it for granted that tomorrow will come. However, now that I have experienced the reality that many people die in front of me due to the great earthquake, the idea that I may not come tomorrow has entered my daily life.

In addition, there are many people who could not live even if they wanted to live in the Great East Japan Earthquake. The fact that there was such a fact can be considered that the life and death of a person is different from the will of the person, and the action of power beyond human knowledge is working. In other words, it can be understood that “living is alive.”

And what is “lived” is to have a relationship with someone or something, and to be connected to them. You may feel that you are being utilized by connecting with someone.

I can’t live alone. It has something to do with people and people, people and everything in nature. Therefore, there are many things that do not go according to your wishes. It’s important to work hard to solve it, but it’s wrong to mourn “this is the worst of my life” just because it doesn’t go as planned. Also, you shouldn’t think so. We should not ask why our lives, we must always think that we are being asked by our lives and do our best to do what we can.

Because every result in the world has a cause. This is because what I have done and what I am doing is reflected in my life as a result.

Therefore, it can be said that life is being questioned.

The society in which we live is changing every day. It doesn’t matter what the individual’s intentions are, whether they turn their backs against the flow or be swept away. Ten years after the great earthquake, looking back, I jumped into the confusing whirlpool and sometimes acted in the opposite direction. It takes energy and physical strength to live in change. And above all, I think it is important to have a world view that all living things can live only by helping each other. And for the first time, I think we can share our lives with everyone who lives in everyone’s society.

Ten years have passed since the Great East Japan Earthquake, and it can be considered that one milestone has been reached as the passage of time. However, many of the victims are still suffering from various problems. In particular, the sadness of losing a loved one does not heal over time, and the perception of it will differ greatly depending on the individual’s disaster situation.

The wounds that have lost a loved one are always present. When you touch the memory, the nerves are damaged and you feel numb like when you touch the recovered scar. Rather, it is struck by the complex sensations of waiting for something to cover, with the rawness of the exposed nerves being constantly exposed to the air. It will take a long time to recover from the pain. Also, you will not be able to avoid the difficult period. Despite the turmoil of media reports, it’s been 10 years in the disaster area, quiet and gentle as usual.

In other words, it is not possible to impose a time break on “reconstruction of the mind.” Also, the bereaved family must wait slowly without being impatient, even if the sadness does not disappear easily. And it is important to have the opportunity to talk to someone around you without having to carry sadness alone. If possible, it is necessary to create opportunities for discussion with people in the same situation so as not to be isolated. Alternatively, visiting the “Wind Phone” and speaking out aloud your feelings in a space isolated from the outside of the box, or expressing your feelings with all one’s might will release your mind and lead to healing.

“People have the power to adapt to the post-loss world and ultimately regenerate their vitality, no matter how painful they may be,” psychotherapists say. What does that mean? I have never seen or heard a specific explanation.

I thought about why after 10 years. In Buddhism, there is the word “everything is unchanging,” and everything in the world changes. “It is said that there is nothing that does not change. That means that the time will come when human life will eventually die. In other words, human beings are made by incorporating the fact that “human beings die”. And although you may be despaired with that sadness, if you do not consider everything within the understanding of the Creator, even if you have a grief at the death of your loved ones, you can finally regenerate your vitality. It cannot be interpreted as.

But you are OK! Sadness and suffering do not last forever. Everything changes. Fun things always happen. Because humans are created that way.

Recently, end-of-life care that is actively used in the field of intractable diseases and the terminal stage of cancer. In the clinical setting where patients are suffering from the difficult illness of cancer, having doubts about life itself, suffering from the meaning of life, fear of death, anxiety after death, etc., doctors, caregivers and patients Palliative medicine has come to be brought in with the participation of close relatives.

Mother Teresa said, “The dying person is in danger of being isolated from the world of the living, feeling the anxiety and fear of being separated. To alleviate that anxiety, the role of accepting the death. “We need someone to do it,” he said, creating a “house for people waiting for death” and demonstrating that any human being can play a role in receiving the death.

“Anyone who dies by saying goodbye to someone can get the recognition that he existed in this world and get the hope of rebirth to take over something to someone,” he said.

In this way, Mother Teresa practiced cuddling “for those waiting for death” so that the anxieties and fears of the dying people could be removed and the death could be accepted calmly and with peace of mind.

In the case of a disaster, accident, suicide, etc., the death suddenly comes one day without warning.

Unlike dying after a long illness, he died shortly after looking back on his life, verifying his dreams and hopes, and worrying about his future life with his family. For that reason, I think there are many feelings that the deceased party and the bereaved family who were left behind wanted to convey. However, there is no one to convey his feelings anymore, and only sadness with a mixture of regret and anger that cannot be taken anywhere remains.

I have almost the same situation as the “place” of end-of-life care where my cousin got cancer and died while being taken care of by everyone, and the situation where a large number of people suddenly died unexpectedly in the Great East Japan Earthquake. I experienced it at the time.

My cousin (Hirohisa Takekawa) was four years older and 69 years old, and was a hobby teacher of calligraphy and aikido. He has been playing with him since he was a kid and loved him like his brother. In 2009, when he suffered from cancer and was sentenced to three months to live and was fighting against illness, the ephemeral nature of his life never left his mind.

It takes about 80 to 100 years from birth to death, and people will receive it differently depending on whether they see it as short or long. However, when comparing the time a person is alive with the time since he died, it is far longer after he died, and there is time that lasts forever. If so, I thought that it was important to maintain the “bond” even after death, not just the “bond” during life.

The concept of “The Phone of the Wind” was in place at this point. And, in order to cherish this consciousness, he created the poem “The Phone of the Wind”.

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“The Phone of The Wind”

by Itaru Sasaki

Everyone has a past

There is a present and there is a future

In addition, there are encounters and farewells from time to time

The Phone of the Wind talks to those people

Who do you talk to

Is it a word or a letter

Or is it a facial expression?

The Phone of the Wind speaks with heart

Close your eyes quietly

Please listen

The sound of the wind or the sound of the waves

Or if you hear the chirping of a little bird

Please convey your feelings

Your feelings will surely reach that person

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On the other hand, no one died in the disaster. Those who were drunk by the tsunami without any means of sudden events, those who desperately tried to escape but could not avoid it, the circumstances vary, but the victims must have wanted to live even more. It must have been an effort to live somehow. However, when he learned that it wouldn’t come true, he must have prayed for the safety of his family and regretted that he had a lot of things to tell. “I want to live, but I can’t live, I want to convey, but I can’t convey.” When I guessed this feeling, I strongly felt that it was necessary to connect that unfortunate feeling.

Also, even if the family was left behind, if they knew that they couldn’t meet anymore, they should have talked more and more, understood each other better, and created a lot of memories. However, the deceased will not come back by any effort or by any means. I can’t talk or play. Remorse and regret swirl, and thoughts are confused, and various requests from real life lose their sense of reality and tend to lose sight of themselves.